Which Self Do You Choose?

The following comparison helps you choose which self you identify with: your False or True Self.

How your False Self-Image holds you back and limits you      The freedom of living from your True Self


 Intellectual limitations of the False Self:

  •  Thinks rigidly and narrowly
  • — Always has to appear “positive”
  • — Uses All-or-Nothing, Black-or-White  thinking
  • — Jumps between two opposite extremes


 Intellectual advantages of your True Self:

  •  Thinks more effectively and creatively
  • — Can see both the upsides and                                                 the downsides of any issue
  • — Sees a range of options and possibilities                               in any situation
  • — Sees change as a step-by-step process
 The False Self causes you to have a limited identity:

  • — Exclusively externally oriented
  • — Always has to impress or please other people
  • — Identifies with your roles and
    external accomplishments
  • — Lacks an authentic foundation for making   choices and taking action
  • — Divides you into disconnected parts
  • — Overemphasizes some of your aspects
  • — Ignores, represses, or denies other aspects of yourself
 Your True Self allows you to live from your whole, genuine identity—you can:

  •  Be both internally and externally orientated
  • — Identify with your own unique individual self
  • — Make choices and take action based on what you really value
  • — Recognize, acknowledge, and integrate all  aspects of yourself
  • — Use all of your abilities, gifts, and  talents
  • — Feel more complete


 Emotional limitations of the False Self:

  • Feels unworthy of love
  • —Not able to love yourself
  • —Has difficulty giving love to other people
  • —Avoids genuine intimacy
  • Fear-based
 Your True Self brings more love into your life, because you:

  •  Know you are worthy of love
  • — Can feel healthy self-love
  • — Can fully love other people
  • — Can create genuinely fulfilling relationships and intimacy
 A limited (and limiting) Belief System, causes you to:

  • Feel trapped by old negative beliefs
  • —Be easily thrown off course by negative circumstances
  • — Become overwhelmed by change
  • — Believe that only external circumstances   make you feel important
  • — Feel disconnected from your own genuine  sources of meaning and purpose


The False Self causes you to:

  • Have an illusionary perspective
  • Live behind a mask
  • Lie
  • Rationalize
  • Be inauthentic
  • Be unaware of what’s important
  • Live a misspent life
  • Be a denier
  • Use power & control
  • Have a weak presence
  • Be unhappy
 An expanded, empowering Belief System, causes you to:

  •  Recognize your innate power to create effective change
  • — Stay centered, no matter what
  • — Transform negative circumstances (past, present, and future) into positive
  • — Connect to your own inner sources of meaning and purpose
  • — Know that your life is innately important


Your True Self causes you to:

  • Have a realistic perspective
  • Be transparent
  • Be truthful
  • Be responsible
  • Be authentic
  • Live from core values
  • Live a purposeful life
  • Be aware
  • Be a strong influencer
  • Have a strong presence
  • Be happy


If you choose the True Self, then you would want to attend the Freedom To Be Your True Self online classes.


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